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This happened with my son and husband. when my husband went back to work i became the main adult in his life so i done most bed times cause my husband works shifts, so when my husband was home he would take him up to bed and my son would go mad so i would have to take over.
Then we cottoned on that my son found out if he went mad mummy came up so next time my husband was off work i told him to take our little boy to bed and dont give in to him after a few nights my son gave up and they get on great now. It was hard for me but if i let it carry on my husband would of been pushed out so much. hope this helps

its strange as my husband works 12 hr shifts and i am with baby all day. he has been back at work for a few months now and this is only happening now?

he looks forward to seeing her after a long day but finds he just gets shouted at...and she doesn't feed for him either.

thanks for your advice and i will try it out. i am going back to work in a few months time and need the reassurance that this wont be an issue!

My youngest was the same but it didnt last for very long. My husband works 12 hour shifts too so we just assumed that because mummy had to do everything he was becoming a bit of a mummies boy. He wouldnt let his dad feed him or hold him or anything. It only lasted a short while and he was around the same age. Hes fine now other than I am the only one that can settle him properly if he wakes during the night or anything.

Hello your lo prob going thorough th child separation period, my lo done the same at 4-6 months, as your the main carer they feel they need you & can't be without you.

Tell your husband not worry about it too much just try and be there as much as he can, he will grow out of and will be happy to see him. All I can suggest all three play together, and let daddy give the last bottle and put her to bed, again my lo used to cry (sob) broke my heartstrings but after 4day he got used the ideal that daddy sometimes puts in to bed.

My lo now 10months and loves it as soon as Daddy walks in from work or wakes up even though not Daddy's not impressed especially first thing in the morning when all he wants his cup of tea to wake up first, I do laugh unlike us mums!!! well suppose he does do shift work.

take care
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