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hi dont worry bout the rant.. i do it all the time.. im 36 weeks + and really fed up now...
i dont know your partner but from what u say he really cares.. hes probably finding it difficult with all the changes with in the family. i suppose it may be harder for him to adjust to having LO than it is u. after all we get to feel them grow and all that for them they know baby is coming but dont really experience anything till baby arrives and thats quite sudden.. he maybe a little depressed and down on himself. wantng to help but not really knowing what to do and if u are babys main carer and he wont stop crying for dad thats probably made him feel more useless. and if ur partner is anything like mine he wont know how to talk about it or may not want to bother u as u have so much to do already.. be patient and when u can get time alone try talking to him and if he dont want to talk let him know ur there when he does.... sorry cant be more help. tho the computer thing would crack me up think id have cut the plugs off LOL good luck hope all works out for u x

hi i know exactly how u feel, my LO is 6 weeks and his dad was the same until last week. again he was fantastic whilst on paternity but 2 days aftr he went back i found i had to ask him to give him a bottle or change his nappy etc. I let this go on for 2 weeks before I ended up shouting that it was his son too. He then got really upset and said to me that because im with ben all the time that he felt like when he returned to work ben was just my son who he babysat for occasionally. he also said he felt jealous of ben as all of my affections were now just for ben -which was right, we had no time for us.
So i asked my mum to babysit one night and made the effort to show my partner that i still loved him. I also arranged to go out with my friends one night and left ben with him so they could have some quality time (first time i'd left him). It really made a huge difference for all of us.
Not sure if that wiill hekp you but hopefully x