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hey
im thankfully not in the same situation and tbh i dont really know what us hould do. i think maybe ur health visitor might b able to advise you? if not then the citizens advice burea would be able t help you x
i did wana say that i cudnt believe he wud do this and ur definately doing the right thing!

Hi, you can refuse contact straight away but you need to get legal advice as soon as possible, either from citizens advice or from a solicitor (most do the first hour or half hour free so you can take a list of questions). You are definitely doing the right thing, and also by keeping all the evidence in the emails - if you get a solicitor dealing with this then forward everything on to them.
Don't panic though, its unlikely that your ex will go to court to fight for contact if he has a drug problem and if he does he's unlikely to get it unless he can prove he is drug free. Good luck, must be awful for you xxx

i am seeing a solicitor on thurs, he has told me hes not going away without s fight, its all very stressful i dont know if i have the energy for this aswel as my other troubles

Hi, he won't have a leg to stand on if he's been doing drugs and they stay in your system for so many days afterwards depending on the drug in question.

http://jobsearchtech.about.com/od/laborlaws/l/aa090301_5.htm

Don't give up, I know its hard but you're doing the right thing for your daughter - if anything happened to her while she was in his care and he was under the influence you'd never forgive yourself would you, you'll have to be strong on this one. He may back off once he realises that you won't back down.
If you ever want to talk about anything we are all here for you xxx