Forum : Mums

Hello!
I know how you feel! Our first child is now 4 months old and alothough my boyfriend is a great Dad, I still find it hard having to cook, clean and look after the house and family every day!
Men just dont seem to understand that clothes needs washing regurly, bins need emptying etc.
I tried to hint, didnt work. I ended up crying and telling him I need help. For that follwoing week he was great. Noticing things that needed doing, but thats all stopped again now!
I appreciate he has to go work all day and I get to stay at home with the baby, but he thinks I sit at home and relax, he dosnt understand that I have to feed, change nappies, get baby to sleep, as well as trying to catch up on sleep myself, its not all easy!
A little bit of help, something as simple as making me tea one or two nigthts a week, washing up the dirty dishes every now and again.
It really upsets me and I aswell feel as tho I'm doing the job of a single parent too. :( xx

Hi
My partner has 3 kids with his ex and when i started buying my daughters stuff which wa my first he didnt have a clue,shes 7 months old and ive gone through the weaning,teething,buying everything myself..i think men just expect us to know everything..he dont have a clue...sometimes i wonder would it be better to be a single mother as id have less to do as i do alot for him,hes like my 2nd child.x

Think they all the same lol

Ahh,

it makes me so upset sometimes ( like when i was writing that ) i was in one of those moods.
Your comments are exactly how im feeling aswell.
Thank you for your replys, so far today me and my partner have got on really well today which is good, but thats only because i havn't been commenting on things that i need help with or that he's not doing!

I love him to bits, just wish he could see how it feels for example going out today... I made sure my sons bag was packed way before we had to leave!
and i was thinking if i hadnt of done this.. you would have asked just before walking out the door " have we packed nappys " ? whys it always down to me??? why cant they ask you have you sorted out a bag or shall i do it quickly.

hmm... I dont know sometimes & Jemmag - i ask myself the same thing, the ammount you feel as if your doing all by yourself you think i could do this being single... as you woulddnt know any different or expect the help. and someone wouldnt be there to make you feel like that, or to argue with, or to wish they could take some weight off your shoulders! When they are there you kind of expect that help but dont get it which is so upsetting!

well you all do great jobs im sure :)
i try my hardest.

xxxx